Sometimes when you walk around, or hang out, or just leave the house you see people. People that look so hot and  so good it gets you to thinking about dating and all the fun stuff that goes along with it. It's pretty common to just be out and about and see someone who looks so good it gets you to thinking all sorts of PG13 - X rated thoughts. That's normal. No harm no foul, but when it is too much? When does it become a problem? I live in New York City so I knew it was becoming a bit of a problem when I'd ride my bike around and narrowly miss getting hit by a car cause I was paying more attention to a girl in a nice dress than the ton of speeding metal and plastic hurdling my way . But still what can you do? I mean yeah you could just not look,but  really who wants to go out like that?. Or you could occupy your mind with taskS and errands,but really it's kind of hard not see the sun in the day, no matter what kind of shade tree you're under. In other words there are very few distractions that can stop me from looking at attractive women, when I notice them.
But still I wonder if this is a bit too much. Am I dreaming my life away with all the women I see on the street ,while not trying to make stronger connections with the real women in my life There are women that I know who are beautiful and fun, but I'm scared to give them a shot, scared of the rejection and the initial awkwardness.
I mean it's always easier to gawk on the street at strangers than to do the hard work relationships take, but does that mean it's better?

Often times my friends and I get a bit conflicted  when it comes to one particular aspect of da ting. The  question of weather to wifey up(start a real relationship) a potential S.O., or just try and  have as much fun as you can before moving on(strings attached style)?
Deciding between the two options can make us a bit hesitant about getting involved. Sure there are pros for each scenario. When you wifey up you have a partner, a lover and a friend, and the relationship is built on a solid foundation. When you go out with a no strings attached frame of mind, things are spontaneous, fun, and electric in a who cares we're having fun kind of way. The cons are there for both methods as well. With a wifey you have to be responsible and ,real,  true, compromise and adult. Which can all be big drags. Of Course with no strings attached, it's just that. Your feeling ,if you put in any(by accident of course) don't matter and the whole relationship is built on  two people's separate choices,which may not be the same or may actually be total opposite. /
 I've done both. At one point I was emotionally there and in love, and my G.F  felt the same,but it ended, and it was hard. At one point I was hanging out with this girl who was not my G.F,but it was cool and lots of Fun. Thing is, when it ended, it hurt too. Maybe not quite as much, but enough to make ask the question. Which is better a relationship where strings are attached or a relationship with no strings anywhere?

Cheating in a relationship is one of those deal breaker kind of offenses. Sure you can get past his annoying friends or her need to tell you everything that happened on last night's episode of Gossip Girl. But once the other one has cheated feelings just change . And when the cheater cheated on you with someone of same the sex the woes just get deeper.
When my girlfriend of about four years told me, that she wanted to sleep with other women, as you might imagine, the idea of my live-in G.F. getting it on with another woman , was both scary and a bit titillating. On the one hand here is my hot girlfriend making passionate and jaw droppingly beautiful love to another hot girl. On the other hand here is my lovely girlfriend getting it on with someone who is not me and destroying everything we've been trying to build together.
At first she hinted around asking me if I'd ever thought about the two of us having a threesome with another women? I was surprised she'd brought up the topic,but excited she at the same time. I knew at that point that this was either going to turn out really really well or it was going to be the down fall our boyfriend/girlfriend era. I told her sure I was game so she went on to take the necessary steps to try and find a third i.e. looking for someone on the interweb. Days turned to weeks and I asked her how our threesome search was going, and that when a funny thing happened. All the "our" and "we" had turned to "me" and "I".
It was then that I realized my girlfriend was not looking for someone for both of us, but some one for herself.
"NO, NO" she would tell me I want to do this with you, but her actions didn't match  her words. She started  to have all these new friends. Friends she didn't' want me to talk to, friends who she only meet up with at odd times of the night or random places.
After a few months, yes, I said months, of this I had to ask  "What was up?. "Well, I'm just into this".' Into what I asked?" "I'm not these women" and like that our threesome turned into her new twosome. She then let me know that she wanted to date women and had no more use for me. The blow to my ego and self esteem  was pretty big, but what hurt just as much was knowing that'd I'd given her permission to see what was out there. Search around and find something new, without even realizing it. If you've ever been cheated on, do you think that your actions or inactions gave your S.O. permission to cheat on you?